I didn't necessarily feel bad, and I definitely don't regret any of it, the circumstances just made it hard for me to let go and loosen up.
#HOW WE DID IT ON A ONE NIGHT STAND PLUS#
I know that I was ready to have sex, but the nervousness of being COMPLETELY NUDE in front of my boyfriend for the first time PLUS being in his house when I wasn't supposed to be made it hard for me to let myself really feel good.
It was super unexpected and definitely not planned. Later, I snuck back in after his parents fell asleep. After class, I hung out with my boyfriend at his house (he lives with his parents). "My first time was with my boyfriend of a few months. It didn't hurt or anything like I'd expected, which was interesting!" - Anumeha, 21ġ2.
"It was the summer after high school for me, sort of an in the heat of the moment type of situation with this guy I'd been talking to for a while. I'm still friends with the guy, too." - Kelsey, 23ġ1. It was completely unplanned, but I've never regretted it. His friend was asleep in his hotel room, so we did it on the balcony. "I was on senior week, and I was hanging out with the boy I liked. And then it sort of just happened to me rather than me choosing whether or not I wanted to." - Alex, 22ġ0. We went to a diner the next morning for breakfast and texted my best friend group chat the link to Lonely's Island's "I Just Had Sex," and I think they were more excited about it than me to be honest." - Tiffany, 21ĩ. It wasn't awkward or weird, and it wasn't this special magical moment either. He made me feel comfortable and respected, so one night, I went over and we had sex.
"I wasn't "in love" or whatever, but I guess I never expected to be. He made me feel better about the experience, and we are still together two and a half years later." - Katie, 24Ĩ. He was so understanding and he said it was fine and that he wanted me to be okay, and that we didn't have to continue. I felt a little ashamed and embarrassed because I imaged something different and I thought he was disappointed in the experience. It was very painful to the point that I had to stop because I was in so much pain. He told me to relax and that we didn't have to continue if I didn't want to, but I did. I felt comfortable, but out of nowhere, I got really nervous. I don’t regret anything and for that I’m thankful." - Jennifer, 22ħ. I was really nervous, but he was patient and managed to make me feel comfortable and sexy, even. It was late at night and we were in the backseat of his car. I lost my virginity to someone I actually cared about, which doesn’t mean much to me looking back now, but it was important to me back then. And then 1-2 minutes later it was over." - Jasmyne, 21Ħ. It wasn't painful, but it honestly didn't feel like anything at all was happening. "It was after homecoming and we were just in his room. But other than that I think it was pretty perfect as far as virgins go." - Debby, 22ĥ. I was so incredibly nervous - I think we both were. "We were 17 and we needed a time when our parents weren’t home, so we waited until Christmas Eve when his parents had left for a holiday party. So to this day, she and I will text each other on October 30 to say happy anniversary." - Tory, 24Ĥ. Then, the next day, I found out one of my best friends also had sex for the first time that night. I got pretty drunk and had sex with one of my childhood friends (on his birthday) in the basement of his house. "I was a sophomore in high school and at a Halloween party. Then, he went to study abroad and we never spoke about it, until like 2 years later." - Bianca, 23ģ. I was 17, drunk at a beach concert, called a guy that we had an on and off thing and we had sex in the back of his pickup car. At the time, I was blinded by my love, so I chose to look past that." - Hafeezah, 22Ģ. I think I would have enjoyed it more if he had checked in with me to see if my needs were being met, which they weren't. He kept his face buried in my shoulder/neck the whole time and asked if I was okay once during, which I thought was kind of inconsiderate. "He knew I was a virgin and for some reason, I had this expectation of it being magical, which in all honesty, it wasn't.